大陸台商妻子兩岸婚姻生活經驗之研究

• Main Author: 陳麗惠
• Other Authors: 王文秀
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2003
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/50969351652857550866

碩士 === 國立新竹師範學院 === 輔導教學碩士班 === 91 === Abstract The purposes of this study were to understand the decision process, roles and responsibilities for the wives’ of Taiwan businessmen in China. The major findings from 5 in-depth interviews are as follows: From the bright side, wives of Taiwan businessmen in China become more independent and get more emotional support in this marriage style. On the other hand, some participants felt that the couples cannot have deeper communication, their concerns were that their children are not close to their fathers, or even worry their husbands may be unfaithful to them. The wives would adjust themselves as time goes by, however, they still hope that the whole family will live together in the near future. As to the decision-making processes of those participants, husbands usually play the dominant role. Most participants except one could only make decisions to trivial household affairs, even when their husbands are not home. All the interviewed wives held the traditional roles of women, they could accept that their husbands would not involved in the house chores Although three of five participants had other family members to help them now and then, they still felt stressful. Therefore, the house affairs may be obstacles for them to go for their dreams. Wives of Taiwan businessmen in China do not agree that their husbands have affairs with others and they tried to ignore this possibility so as to make their lives easier. One of the participants put this in another perspective that it should be ok if their marriage relationship is at risk. All of five wives represses and displace their sexual desires. Most of them had moral judgment in this regard. As this two-strait marriages style goes on, some research participants were more used to it and get the best of this marriage style, while some didn’t think they had any change so far. The factors that influence the marriage relationship include the quantity and quality of mutual communication, the frequencies of contact, the quantities of quarrel, the way they spend time together, the impact from the relatives and media, and the wives’ attitude toward their husbands’ loyalty to the marriage. All the research participants concerned a lot about their husbands’ extra familial affairs. These concerns made themselves nervous, sleepless, despondent, distracted, and had some irrational thoughts. Some of them forced themselves to trust their husbands or reject to consider this possibility. And some of them suggest they should have crisis precautions. Some of them refuse to have sex with their husbands because they can’t get rid of suspecting if their husbands were unfaithful. To avoid the gaps between father-children relationship, the research participants made a lot of effort to enhance their mutual communication. The researcher made some implications for counseling two-strait marriage couples as well as suggestions for further research.