| Summary: | 碩士 === 南華大學 === 生死學研究所 === 91 === The study is proposed to probe, when parents face the lost of their children, what is the connotation of their process in grief-adjustment, company with the grief reaction and adaptive strategy in their recovery; meanwhile, comprehending bereaved parents’ experience and realization for the meaning of life. The study includes the opinions and requirement from the bereaved parents as to the bereavement support group. The study employs the qualitative research method, undertaken by semi-structure in-depth interview. After interviewing six bereaved parents, the main findings are as following:
A. Process in Adjusting Bereavement
In the modality of alternation, grief keeps undertaking along with weakening. There are always different procedures and orders of the course in grief-adjustment. Optimistic tendency is a great helper to grief-adjustment.
B. Grief Reaction
Grief reaction does not exist along, either does they come one after another, instead, there are implicative relations between each single reaction; thus, the classification of grief reaction is fragile and undistinguishing. The multiplicity of grief reaction is mostly happened between children’s illness and death; however, the variety of emotional reaction is much less between children’s death and funeral & interment. The common affective expressions of grief, such as mourning and grieving, begin after the funeral. Bereaved parents’ worrying affection could be consoled only if children would be better after life.
C. Adaptative Strategy
Whether during children’s illness or after children’s death, bereaved parents would voluntarily take adaptation in grief work, including the application of personal internal factors and external supportive system. Internal factor consists of self-awareness, acceptance of the fact, religions and caring people initiatively. External supportive system consists of the assistance from parents, spouse, friends, religious people and growth group.Coping your sorrowful affections by the means of escaping or suppression would do nothing good but to cause more negative effects, you would confront the risk of deeper injury and trauma.
D. Manifestation in the Meaning of Life
Confronting of the great impulse from children’s death, there would be obvious transformation in bereaved parents’ philosophy, attitude and objective of life, and views on death. Bereaved parents would feel life’s impermanent and limitation to human being, thus, their attitude towards life would be more relaxing, they would no longer seek for high position and fame; instead, they would realize that the initial part is become what they already are. They comprehend thoroughly about what they are pursing on life objection. They would take the optimistic viewpoint to death, and be courageous enough to talk bout. Meanwhile, through the introspect of life-withering they, once again, recover their own vigor in life.
E. Viewpoints to Bereavement Support Group
Affirming the function of the bereavement support group, and showing wills to participate in such group.
This study provides concrete suggestion based on the researching conclusion, to those scholars, experts and practice performers as for the counseling preference. At the same time, this research helps bereaved parents confront the damage and value which might be caused form death experience, with the hope that bereaved parents whom are concerned could recovery from the process on grief accommodation.
Keywords: bereaved parents, grief, adjustment, the meaning of life, bereavement support group
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