Summary: | 碩士 === 中國文化大學 === 心理輔導研究所 === 94 === The study explored the mental process of suffering experience from breaking-ups of college students. The aims of this study are to understand the meaning of suffering experience, and to plot the process of suffering experience generating from past break-up experiences. The research participants are subject to senior college students who had been through break-up experience in college period. One male and two female students who had forced to terminate their relationships with the other parties are recruited for the study. On the other hand, the researcher employed qualitative in-depth interview to collect the underlying data. Moreover, narrative research and triangulation technique in validating the results are used in this study.
Three main results are generated here, which discuss the meaning of mental process, the transition of the issues, and the meaning of going through suffering experience. The description of each result is summarized as follows. Firstly, the mental process of break-up experiences signifies the existence of a strong wish to raise self-identity in a romantic relationship, and shows that the origin of suffering comes from personal over-involvement. Furthermore, breaking up from a romance is a kind of loss experience, and repeated loss may lead to suffering experience. Besides, there are different points of view from both gender regarding sexual relationship. Secondly, three core issues have been mentioned as transition to the main subjects, including the meaning of self in a relationship, the similarity of transformed core issues ( i.e. the impact to the self and the effort to remain consistency of the self), and the differentiation and interaction between the self and his/her partner. Thirdly, the meanings of going through suffering experience are twofold: the loss of self and the vanity of self.
Finally, there are four periods which describe the coping process of going through suffering experience: a. the interlace stage of astonishment and denial; b. the suffering stage of loss admission; c. the embracement stage of full acceptance; d. the action stage of re-establishment. Besides, three summarized meaning for going through suffering experience are as follows: a. suffering from loss of a romantic relationship is a transition of life; b. the meaning of love would not be realized until breaking up; c. breaking-up offers an opportunity for re-construction self. Last but not the least, the author raised several feasible suggestions for the practice and study into the field of counseling based on the findings of this study.
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