The process of parent’s coping with their homosexual children's "come out".

• Main Authors: Lan Tseng,Li-Chuan, 曾麗娟
• Other Authors: Shen,Hsiang-Ying
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2007
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/79936013492446885639

碩士 === 玄奘大學 === 應用心理學系碩士班 === 95 === This study explores adaptation process taken by the homosexual’s parents in terms of purposive sampling after the parents learn that their children are “coming out” homosexuals. The sample is based upon six parents whose kids are either gay or lesbian, and proceeds with semi-structured in-depth interview. The result will then be further analyzed. The analyzed result is divided into four parts: First, individual response process after kid’s “coming out” and individual issue: Second, common response to the fact that kids are homosexual; Third, common issue and phenomenon shared by these six parents; Fourth, important elements in the response process. As the study shows, these six parents have adapted different attitude toward their “coming out” kids, and individual issues have separately emerged during the response process. However, they share four common coping phases: 1) chaotic and disorder phase; 2) struggling and resisting phase; 3) facing, solving or growing phase; 4) balance-searching and adjusting phase. There are three common issues: 1) the omnipresence of rigid and stereotyped sexual concept; 2) homosexual identification is a future testing issue in the face of norms of family and cultural values; 3) endure the isolation derived from being as a legal disadvantage and from the stigma given by the society. Moreover, there are four phenomena: 1) reproduction of patriarchy and system-abiding; 2) parents’self- awareness and changes due to the homosexual kids; 3) the lopsidedness and re-balance of the parent-kid relationship; fourth, fatalism discourse. Seven coping elements are brought about: 1) individual life resilience; 2) witnessing successful response case; 3) mutual support from partner or friends, or guide from elders; 4) realization of and closeness to the homosexuals; 5) interpretation of the fact and transformation; 6) the desire to maintain the relationship between parents and kids; 7) comfort from religious faith. The researcher thus elaborates upon the information and gives a detailed discussion, presenting in the meanwhile researcher’s retrospection, and entering suggestions to parents who have homosexual kids, family, homosexuals, counselors and future possible studies.