My lover is a two-timer— Affactional decisions of unmarried female adults who faced their boyfriend developing extradyadic relationships

• Main Authors: Jamie Hsu, 許淨
• Other Authors: Pei-Li Wu
• Format: Others
• Language: zh-TW
• Published: 2010
• Online Access: http://ndltd.ncl.edu.tw/handle/81821661930702158432

碩士 === 國立臺灣師範大學 === 教育心理與輔導學系在職進修碩士班 === 98 === The purpose of this research is to explore the unmarried adult female’s decision-making in affection while encountering their boyfriend’s simultaneously developing multiple relationships with more than one woman, including the female’s thinking and coping and adjusting to such impact. Based on semi-structured in-depth interviews and thematic analysis, this research probes the fundamental meaning of the experience and presents the affection of decision-making experiences of unmarried adult females via common themes. In this study, the researcher used a “snowball” method to find unmarried adult females who were over 25 years old at the time of interview, experienced their boyfriend’s developing multiple relationships, appreciated the experience very much and made the affection decision. Totally, the researcher invited five participants whose ages range from 27 to 33 years old; they had maintained the romantic relationship with their boyfriend at least three years. Among them, three had been engaged and one of the three had been married to her boyfriend but divorced within a year. When the five participants were interviewed, they all had broken up with their boyfriend; one was married, one was single, and the other three had new relationships. The researcher has annotated and circulated ten text documents thematically and analytically and resulted in three essential themes from the unmarried adult females’ experiences: 1. The adult females had separated and reconciled with their boyfriend repetitively but were still eager to get married; 2. The adult females had been hurt by their lover’s infidelity and had sought for balance with both cognition and emotion; and 3. The adult females had realized that their lover wasn’t Mr. Right and thus determined to separate. In addition, the common themes analyzed from the consequences of the research can be used as references for females and for the institutes related. Finally, this research has also proposed suggestions for future study.